He's growing up.

My son has been deluged with study and soccer practice since he entered junior high school. He has tried to make some time for himself, but sometimes it didn't work well.

I am not sure if his super busy days causedthe following problem, but he often developed a skin rash on his body. After he had soccer practice, in particular.
In the middle of this month, I took him to see a doctor and she told him not to play games for a while. Since then, he has practiced juggling with a soccer ball or had core exercises instead.
I am not familiar with soccer and don't try to butt into his practice. However, it seems I have poked my nose into his affairs.

The other day, I vented my frustration I had bottled up. At that time, I told about my son's matters from my point of view. I have to admit that I was a backseat driver. He might have thought that he shouldn't tell me his thought because I was emotional. He wrote his thought and gave it to me.
After reading it, I felt terrible about myself. He wasn't immature but I was. He is thinking about his affairs in his own way. I saw his great growth. I thought he was still young but actually he was growing up. I fully realized that his decision should come first and I watch over.

It might be the time to let go of him...

Setting Small Goals.

The other day, when I was watching a news item on TV and a man caught my attention. He's an astronaut and has stayed at the International Space Station, Mr. Kimiya Yui. He was on the news answering questions from children in Japan.
One of his answers was an eye-opener to me. These are the details: A girl, who is a junior high school student, asked him, "Did you get in a bind during the training session to become an astronaut? How did you emerge from the difficulties when you struggled?" He answered, "Yes, I faced difficulties and they were very challenging to me. However, becoming an astronaut was my dream, so I set small goals which I could achieve easily when I was almost collapsed. I stepped closer to my final goal by achieving them one by one."

I assume that many moms have been fretted about their kids' homework in their summer vacation. I am one of them because my son put it on the back burner! I had nagged at him and rushed him into buckling down on his homework, but it didn't work. What was worse, it killed his enthusiasm, as you can easily imagine.

After watching the news, I told him to set small goals and tried to wait and see. I don't want to sound that I'm a doting mom, but he is honest and basically diligent actually. I know our paces are different, so I decided to leave it up to his own pace.
Mr. Yui's words eased my irritation and were big tipss for me on how to handle my son.

I Learned Again as a Mom.

My son is in the 5th grade, into playing trading cards with his friends and loves soccer. He's getting to a rebellious age, so we sometimes wrangle about his studies, attitudes, life style and so forth. Every time I nag at him, I feel terrible about myself. I understand that I should be patient. However, I actually have trouble handling my feelings.

The other day, I visited my co-worker to ask about accounts. After clearing up my questions, we chatted over coffee. We made small talk, mainly about our kids. As moms, we might not be able to escape from worrying about raising our children. All too often, we're liable to meddle in their matters and upbraid them.
During our chat, she told me about an interesting point: Just remind them of what they should do and let them alone. They can do everything at their own pace. We should leave it up to them, praise whatever they tried to do even if they were triflings, and we shouldn't interfere in private lives too much. After all, we need to be patient. lol

She told that she had read a book about raising children the other day, and it was an eye-opener to her. I've heard about these things here and there, and some might think that we're never worried if we can do that.
However, I considered her point again, and decided to keep it in mind. It might be my imagination, but I feel less frustrated at him than before. In addition, he actually did what to do and tried to help me. I realized that I had overlooked his behavior and looked at him from my own view point. I might have been a well-meaning mom.

Thanks to her, I learned what to do for him. :)

That's not Fair!

I don't want to annoy you, but let me release my pent-up emotions!

My son is a member of the school health committee or 保健委員会 in Japanese. Today, he had to do chores as a member. At that same time, he had to take part in the activity that his school regularly carries out. Unluckily, he was late because of his chores. However, his homeroom teacher didn't ask him about the reason, and just told him off for being late and to come to the next activity.
Not only was he, but his other classmates who are members of the other committees were also told off.

According to him, the teacher didn't tell them about what they should have done in this case.
Of course, I told him that he should have told the teacher about his situation.
I think if the chores hinder them in the activity, his school should replan it not to conflict their schedules.

Maybe, I shouldn't step in his matters, but that kind of matter wasn't the first time. That's why I have doubted about the quality of the teacher and had been waiting and seeing for a while.
Anyway, I can't accept this at all! It's time to protest! HUMPH!

How Impressive!

This time of the year, we have sports days here and there in Japan. Yesterday, my son's school held a field day as well.

According to the weather forecast, it had predicted it would rain. In fact, it had been raining the previous day. Representatives of the PTA had had to prepare for the event. I'm one of them, so other parents and I had joined up to set up several tents in the rain in hope that it would be fine.

Luckily, our hard work paid off! It was a perfect day for a field day yesterday. During the event, I really enjoyed watching my son's performance, formation gymnastics in particular. Students who are in the 5th and 6th grades formed pyramids, towers and other shapes. They tried not only a variety of shapes but dynamic performance like cheerleading.
When I think that they had been practicing very hard together for that day, I saw their growth and my heart was full.

How impressive!
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Author: VibrantRose TOEIC 935 (2018.4) TESOL認定講師