There's not only one answer.

A student of mine, who is in the 3rd year of junior high school, asked me the following question yesterday.

She said, "Ms. VibrantRose, is it correct or incorrect?-The girl that has long hair is my sister."
I answered, "I think it is right. Why?"
She continued, "When I tried one of the English questions for the entrance exam for high school I'll take this month, its answer said the girl who has long hair is my sister. Is my answer correct?"

I looked the answer and sighed.............Why?
That's because there was ONLY one answer: The girl (who) (has) long hair is my sister.

About this question, an original sentence was "The girl with long hair is my sister", and she filled in the blanks to be the same meaning. There were two blanks, and she chose "that" because she had learned "who" and "that" could be used in this case. What's more, there wasn't any requirement that she shouldn't choose "that".
That is why she was a little confused and asked me about it.

If I learned correctly, both ways are fine in this case. Maybe, is it an exception to the grammar or something? don't think so.....
However, I didn't want to tell her anything wrong, and I asked my friends from America and England to make sure of it, just in case.
They replied me quickly and said, "Both ways are right and natural."


Of course, 'who' is generally chosen, and I would do that. It is true that some argue "that" should be wrong. But what I want to say is every student or English learner shouldn't think there is only one answer, and they should expand your knowledge to choose the best one, depending on the situation.

I think this is one of the reasons why Japanese students are still struggled in English. Some students who have a good command of English would be confused like her, others who aren't good at it could learn only the answers their text books say. I think, of course, their teachers tell them not only correct answers but also other useful knowledge, though.

Anyway, the more deeply they learn English, the more they will be confused....I would like to help them anytime so that their English will be able to improve greatly in the future. This is my labor of love. lol

Being immersed in English

I have written about this many times here, but let me bring it up again: How do I immerse myself in English every day.

I am an English teacher and regularly take on translation assignments in English, so I am lucky enough to be able to use English every day. What's more, thanks to my friends from overseas, I have more opportunities to use English than before. To brush up on my English, I make a point of reading the papers, watching and listening to English materials as well as writing my entries in English on my blog.

Lately, I started to watch English TV programs on NHK satellite. I didn't use to watch its programs, but the other day I decided to watch one of the channels on a whim, and I found that it would be helpful for me not only to improve my English but also to learn about what is going on in the world. It broadcasts news from all over the world such as America, England, Australia, India, and U.A.E-you name it.
On top of that, we can even watch old movies.

I'm not very fond of morning TV shows which are like attention grabbing Instead of these programs, don't you think it is well worth watching the above ones?

I turned over a new leaf.

My family spent our quality time with the in-laws for the New Year's holidays.

Before visiting the in-laws, I was actually hell-bent on being a perfect mom and wife. I have to admit that I might have been a perfectionist. In fact, I had too much on my plate; nevertheless, I thought that I should do everything. What was worse, I expected my family too much about everything, and chided my son for trifling matters as if I were a micromanager. It is clear that I was terribly self-centered.

Thanks to my son's letter I wrote here in late December and the time I spent with the in-laws, I was able to take another look at myself again and feel totally refreshed.

Ever since my family came back to our house, it seems that my way of thinking might have been changed. Maybe I haven't felt stressful at all because I think "You-my son, should decide and follow your decisions" instead "I should do", and I talk to myself: "Do I have too much on my plate?"and "Is this the thing that I SHOULD do now?" It might seem like that I am a drama queen, but it is a huge burden off my shoulders!

In addition, I am telling to myself: "Take it easy" and "Things will work out".

Be happy, be positive, and enjoy every single moment.
This is my motto.

He's growing up.

My son has been deluged with study and soccer practice since he entered junior high school. He has tried to make some time for himself, but sometimes it didn't work well.

I am not sure if his super busy days causedthe following problem, but he often developed a skin rash on his body. After he had soccer practice, in particular.
In the middle of this month, I took him to see a doctor and she told him not to play games for a while. Since then, he has practiced juggling with a soccer ball or had core exercises instead.
I am not familiar with soccer and don't try to butt into his practice. However, it seems I have poked my nose into his affairs.

The other day, I vented my frustration I had bottled up. At that time, I told about my son's matters from my point of view. I have to admit that I was a backseat driver. He might have thought that he shouldn't tell me his thought because I was emotional. He wrote his thought and gave it to me.
After reading it, I felt terrible about myself. He wasn't immature but I was. He is thinking about his affairs in his own way. I saw his great growth. I thought he was still young but actually he was growing up. I fully realized that his decision should come first and I watch over.

It might be the time to let go of him...

To refresh my mind

After I got a slight cold, I had feel dull and hadn't wanted to do anything. Having said that, I had to give my regular English lessons, so I pushed myself to go on.
Whenever I feel dull or have too much on my plate, I try to refresh myself by doing like exercising, taking a walk, chatting with my friends or sleeping as much as possible. lol This time, however, anything I tried didn't work. I didn't know why. I was even thinking that I might be in the change of life.

Last week, I took part in an English workshop and talked about my situation. I knew my talk was incoherent and seemed to let off steam, but I kept talking. I hate to sound that I thought nagatively, but at that time I might have been in that way. I was down in the dumps.
After talking, the other members gave me some advice to relax and cheer me up. Thanks to them, I cleared my mind and rethought what to do next and about what made me so anxious.
After the session, I had a good workout. It really worked. I felt refreshed and my mind became so clear.

Now I understood why I was so anxious and what to do next.
I really realized that I am blessed with wonderful friends.
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Author: VibrantRose TOEIC 925 (2017.4) TESOL認定講師